Rote in Dreams
by: Layne Dalfen
Well here I am again! Another Oprah dream! That in itself is a ROTE! Do you remember rote in school? Rote is a repeat. Read, write, recite. Read, write, recite. That's how we learn. And the dreams give us rote as well. Your subconscious wants to make sure your conscious gets it. Rote happens during the same dream, or in dreams that span the night, and can happen over a period of days as well! As you will see in the dream I woke with this morning it is especially when you find rote in a dream it can SO click you into decoding what the dream is about. In my dream this morning it was because of rote that I was able to ask myself, "What am I doing in a round-a-bout, unconventional way?"
A simple example of rote that I use in lectures is to say to you if I am trying to tell myself I am scared about something, in one dream of an evening I might dream about a ghost. What does that mean for me? It means I'm scared. Later in the same night I'll dream I am standing on the abyss of a cliff. What does that mean? It means I'm scared. Finally closer to the morning I'll dream about my Grade 5 teacher. What does that mean? It means I'm scared! So all these completely different images are all me saying to myself that I am scared. And all I need do to understand what current waking-life issue the dream is trying to solve is to ask myself, "What am I feeling afraid of?"
Another Oprah Dream
In this dream I am coming out of someone's home on a family, residential street, like somewhere in Hampstead for example. It's a crescent and Oprah's house is in that crescent. Or I could say that it's a dead end street.....and Oprah's house is at the dead end....except to add that the homes are in a crescent.
I'm out on the street walking to a place where I am going to speak. Oprah's door opens and she comes out. I walk up her stairs to greet her. It's again like we are friends, but not close enough that I feel completely relaxed and comfortable. There's a small tension there.
We come down the stairs together. Next we are in the room where I am giving the presentation. There is a room in the center of this big room. There's a table that covers the room all around, and you can walk all around as well, but you can't walk from one side to the other if you are in the middle of the room.
I think the room in the middle of the room is a kitchen maybe.
The table that covers the circumference of the room has a white table cloth. People are sitting all around and there is plenty of room for me to walk all around though I am thinking it is going to be a challenge for everyone to hear me. Oprah is sitting on the left side of the room right in the middle.
There's a few people up and getting coffee still, but I begin. At first I'm standing on Oprah's side of the room, but in the far left corner, but as I begin to talk is when I realize I should walk around to each of the corners of the room as I speak to make sure everyone hears me.
I'm not giving my usual lecture. Instead I go right into examples of dreams. Like I remember saying to one woman, "Did you know one client had a one-picture dream of a piglet stuck to her breast?" And then I told why she had the dream. http://youtube.com/watch?v=9CM_gPXzDR8
Now I walked over to Oprah and asked her if she remembered her dream last night, to which she said she did. I asked her if she'd share it and she said no! Okay.....I'm standing there.....But I recovered very quickly. Almost without a hitch and looked up at the long table she was sitting at, asking, "Does anyone have a dream from last night they'd like to share?"
Sure enough, hands went up all over the place. I chose a woman who was in the far right-hand corner of the room. She stood up to speak as I am walking towards her and she says her dream in French. Not only in French, which most of the people in the room don't understand, but also, she has no mic. I have to repeat what she is saying and I also now have to translate.
This was the part of the dream where I took the reigns and felt very comfortable and at ease with myself.
I took to walking the room. I never crossed completely over to the right side to walk that length of the room probably because the dreamer was on the left side and I was talking with her, but I did make it to all corners projecting myself very well so that everyone in the room heard what I was saying.
She would talk and I would repeat what she said in English and then respond to her in French asking her questions, and then repeat in English so everyone new what I asked and what she was responding.
It was a challenge but I did very well. I was managing "as if" I was completely comfortable but inside I have to admit there was a certain tension definitely different than speaking with a mic at the front of a room in a traditional way.
The night before last I watched my TIVO of Oprah's last show. That's the dead end. Her house sits on a crescent though because it's not like your typical dead end street where there's houses on both sides and nothingness down the center. There are other ways more "round about" in which a person can still be approaching Oprah even though her show is over, for example her magazine and network.
During the show one of the points Oprah brought across, which I have known all along, yet hit me a certain way this time, is that each of us has a passion. We are all here to give something special to the world. She said that when you find your passion, do it! You may not be able to do your passion for a living, but make time to do it anyway.
What she said cut right through my heart with the truth of it all. I have tried so hard to make a huge success of the dream work. Even after 39 years I am still just as passionate, excited, and in awe about how much information we can gather from our subconscious mind every night. I have been driven to get the word out and have wished for the opportunity to get the news out to a wide audience using a traditional vehicle to reach the masses.....like as a guest on her show. This never came to pass.
The truth is, while I haven't yet reached a huge mass of people to tell them the news about the value of dream analysis, I did publish a book and people heard me there, and they hear me when I guest spot on radio shows and speak at schools and spas and Twitter and right here at dreamcatcher!
So I am being heard in a more "round about" way.
The dream provides a rote that way. There's the round-about created by the crescent and again it repeats itself in the room I am speaking in by having to walk around.
The "different than traditional way" that appears in the dream happens by rote as well. The walk around room to present in as opposed to speaking to a room full of people with me at the front, and also in how rather than my delivering my lecture as I normally would by discussing the how-to of decoding the dream, instead I went straight to the dreams of people in the room, which I would normally leave to after teaching the basics.
But getting back to the heart of Oprah's point, I internalized that I don't have to reach the size of audience I would have liked to. The truth is I love dream analysis. I love watching (or hearing) a dreamer catching the meaning of the dream. Nothing gives me such a charge!
Yesterday afternoon I was on the telephone with an acquaintance who I haven't spoken to in a long time. Somehow during the course of the conversation he ended up saying it's amazing how many people he comes across in is business who are so wealthy and yet so unhappy. He said, "If you're doing something you love to do, you're happy."
Here was Oprah's message again, coming at me from the universe a second time in two days.....And the dream? It's the third time! Yes. I think I'm getting it.
When Oprah doesn't share her dream with me, it reflects how I didn't (yet anyways) get all I would have liked. Yet in the dream I carry on very well regardless....which is exactly what I am doing....in my own round about way.